Friday, July 28, 2006
goths and fetishists, reenactors and pervs ...
There seem to be huge overlaps between those communities (and yes, before you ask, I belong to all of them ;-) ). Goths wear fetish clothing, 50% of the SCA seems to be kinksters, gamers run around in goth clothes (at least here in Dublin) etc. I wonder why this is.
We all seem to reject mainstream reality to some extent or other. We all also seem to be romantics. Is it as simple as that? Or is it more complicated than that? A lot of people seem to have "come home" into the SCA for instance. For most people who are kinksters BDSM is kinky sex. A more interesting form of foreplay as it was. For some of us it touches our deep down demons and in some cases we don't need sex with it.
So is it a sign of a dysfunction? Or a way of coping with one? On some levels I think so. Most people who have BDSM or SCA or goth or whatever as a hobby this probably won't apply to. To some of us it does. From my experience most of us who this applies to suffer from grievous wounds sustained as well as high intelligence and imagination. So we would be probably be dissatisfied with everyday life life anyways. So is it a sign of boredom? Questions, questions :)
Anyway, as i belong to all these groups, in a way i want to cater to all of them :)
I think you're on to something with the Romanticism.
As for me, I'm just a garden-variety dyke, but one thing I'm sure of is that once you don't consider the strange rules of mainstream, straight sexual rituals and customs applicable to yourself, your entire view of human relationships, including history, tends to tilt a little...
that is entirely true. as I once said to a parson friend of mine "In the end there is only love".
